Well, after my relatively calm, though slightly overwhelmed, post this morning...
Total and complete wedding meltdown. Massive fight.
It was like this...
You may remember (did I mention this on the blog?) that Eric banned me from all wedding talk after 8pm because he says I am too tired after 8 to make good choices and not blow up at people. This worked well, but he forgot that Sunday Kelly is a lot like 8 pm Kelly. Not necessarily tired, but stressed about the week ahead (especially when I am at the Cape and have to think about packing, driving home, and deal with life at home). So from now on I am banned from talking about the wedding after 8pm and on Sundays. At this rate by July 10th Eric will ban me from wedding talk EVERY day!
Seriously though. This is how the wedding meltdown goes...
First: Kelly gets annoyed by some random little thing that tends to happen when several people are offering their opinion on a very important day...or multiple days as weddings seem to be.
Then: While Kelly would normally quickly forget temporary annoyance- after 8pm or Sunday Kelly starts to get VERY angry and lashes out at the person who happens to be fortunate enough to annoy her at that moment.
Then: That person defends his or herself, only further making 8pm/Sunday Kelly very angry.
Then: Kelly says a bunch of things she does not mean, further proving Eric's philosophy about avoiding speaking when angry if at all possible.
Then: Kelly gets upset that she is fighting with very important people to her about something so stupid as a wedding.
Then: Kelly cries and says she hates weddings.
After recovering from Wedding Meltdown Number God-Only-Knows-How-Many I decided it is time to put a final end to all future wedding meltdowns. I really want to be speaking to all my friends and family come the wedding day and aside from the wedding, I very rarely (if at all) fight with anyone!
Eric and I spent the car ride home developing some new "rules" that will hopefully help wedding planning become...fun? Well...at least tolerable!
1. No talking about weddings after 8pm, or any time that I feel especially stressed about something un-wedding related.
2. When I start to get overwhelmed with wedding details and feel myself getting annoyed easily, simply tell others that I want to talk about a different topic and that we will revisit whatever topic we are discussing at ____ (and name a specific day/time).
*Insert Eric's Note: Just say..."Let's talk about it later, how does the day after the wedding sound?"
3. Get approval from someone any time I want to get angry with someone else. For example, if my parents are bothering me I will have to check with Eric to see if it is okay to get mad at them. He will of course say no, and I will have time to calm down and decide if there is any point at all in getting mad (there never will be). If I want to get mad at Eric, I will have to get approval from Caroline (Maid of Honor) and Katie (Matron of Honor) before I am allowed to voice anger. They will not approve me unless they truly think it will be helpful, and by the time they decide this, I will probably not even care anymore.
Amendments can be added whenever I or Eric feel necessary. Read: Eric will have to add amendments when Wedding Meltdown Number God-Only-Knows + 1 occurs.
Tomorrow's another day...