tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post4134273646774802969..comments2023-10-13T06:34:36.595-04:00Comments on She Wears a Red Sox Cap...: Wedding Meltdown Number ?Kellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03964218970797460632noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-53222105419389187772010-01-27T16:44:15.541-05:002010-01-27T16:44:15.541-05:00Sorry, that was a lot of unsolicited advice from s...Sorry, that was a lot of unsolicited advice from someone you don't now at all!!!! SORRY! :)TropicalHappiness.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14477513342743077186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-37915577081668470992010-01-27T16:43:44.093-05:002010-01-27T16:43:44.093-05:00Hey! New to your blog, but I just had to comment o...Hey! New to your blog, but I just had to comment on this. I got married last May, so i understand your pain. When things got super stressful for me, my husband & I focused on two things: One- no one else's opinion matters more than the bride and groom. Two- focus on the marriage (instead of the wedding). The rest is just a party!<br /><br />But seriously, people say it is just one day but there is so much effort and planning and work that goes into that one day (or weekend) that it is bound to get stressful and down right annoying from time to time. And they are right- the smaller decisions fade away. It sounds like you have some good solutions planned for next time. <br /><br />Mothers and mother-in-laws can also add a lot of stress. <br /><br />I remember that I put so much into picking the table linens (champagne colored with a slight-crinkle-but-not-too-much texture. That night, you couldn't even tell whether they were white or champagne. Oops. :) <br /><br />And two other quick things- you hear all the fun about wedding planning, but I discovered that a LOT of people don't like wedding planning. And last, things will go wrong. For me, in the days following my wedding, it felt like the perfect day because I got married, but I was sad some things didn't go right. It took about 2 weeks and one good cry for me to get to the point where my wedding "was perfect and the happiest day of my life." I swear, the bad memories fade quickly (if things don't go right) and you'll remember only the good!!!TropicalHappiness.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14477513342743077186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-53016785802594269522010-01-26T21:48:38.949-05:002010-01-26T21:48:38.949-05:00lol. and here i just commented about how cool and ...lol. and here i just commented about how cool and collected you are... ;)<br /><br />dude it's totally understandable. i think you are going to have some over-reacting moments like this, but the good thing is your family and eric will be understanding and forgiving. i know you'll avoid putting yourself in this situation for the most part, but it's just gonna happen. also remind yourself that it is JUST one day. yes, the wedding/getting married part is a huge deal, but all the little details - meh. people won't remember what kind of napkin rings you had.<br /><br />i love eric's note. hahaha.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17720800873803974929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-72898864797903717522010-01-26T13:27:52.612-05:002010-01-26T13:27:52.612-05:00Wedding meltdowns are normal. I had many when pla...Wedding meltdowns are normal. I had many when planning. The majority of my meltdowns related to my mother-in-law. She wanted to take a little too much control on the wedding planning.Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14853999020050748441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-86832350917708817012010-01-25T16:13:33.178-05:002010-01-25T16:13:33.178-05:00oh gosh... is that what I have to look forward too...oh gosh... is that what I have to look forward too!! hehe..Jessica @ Dairy Free Bettyhttp://www.dairyfreebetty.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-43097890516481028122010-01-25T14:06:29.389-05:002010-01-25T14:06:29.389-05:00haha what a fun list! I like the 'get approval...haha what a fun list! I like the 'get approval to get angry with someone' I tink this totally makes sense. Girl, it can be so stressful so make sure to take YOU time :) and jus tthink about how amazing everything will be!!Naomi(Onefitfoodie)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03776420534440308810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-89800703697026451022010-01-25T09:58:31.183-05:002010-01-25T09:58:31.183-05:00As much as I'm looking forward to planning my ...As much as I'm looking forward to planning my own wedding, I'm not looking forward to the arguments that I'm sure will ensue with my mother. I know it's going to be so stressful. Your rules are great though, I love them! <br /><br />And when all else fails...just remember...it's YOUR day!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02472214840216465822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-13512891141671296812010-01-25T09:39:37.406-05:002010-01-25T09:39:37.406-05:00Ahhhhhh, I feel your pain. I remember all too well...Ahhhhhh, I feel your pain. I remember all too well. Hang in there!Marlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08230997094889375925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-26218760006018479652010-01-25T08:43:29.878-05:002010-01-25T08:43:29.878-05:00I dunno, I just thought the whole wedding process ...I dunno, I just thought the whole wedding process was supposed to be fun...so I didn't have meltdowns because that would have ruined the once in a life time experience. His family made me nuts, so I just said sorry we love you this is how we are doing it and when on about my way. It was our day, to be done our way and celebrate our love...everyone else was a blessing to have there...but not their day.RunToTheFinishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13995696358152941044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-80270651811996582572010-01-25T08:28:20.138-05:002010-01-25T08:28:20.138-05:00I'm sorry that your wedding stresses you out s...I'm sorry that your wedding stresses you out so much. I can totally see how someone who isn't into details and planning could really not enjoy this process. I personally love it and I think what KT said is very true, it is only one day. In the end it doesn't really matter what color the flowers are (although I would go with white for the bridesmaids) or what the cake looks like. It will all be ok!Carlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02602197893251593228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-55012661245528462532010-01-25T08:25:36.131-05:002010-01-25T08:25:36.131-05:00Oh no! Sorry to hear it! I HATED wedding plannin...Oh no! Sorry to hear it! I HATED wedding planning so at least you're getting through it - and just remember, you'll never have to do it again! :)Simply Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16492661388892873640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-21327777094157586192010-01-25T08:18:31.148-05:002010-01-25T08:18:31.148-05:00Ahhh, the pre-wedding melt downs. I remember thos...Ahhh, the pre-wedding melt downs. I remember those! And so does my patient husband! You'll get through it. I like the guidelines you set for yourself!Shannonhttp://www.mylessonstolearn.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-31186259473657474882010-01-25T01:11:23.057-05:002010-01-25T01:11:23.057-05:00Coming from a bride who did not get really stresse...Coming from a bride who did not get really stressed about the planning process...I have to remind you, this is ONE day. Yes, it is a very important day, but things will go wrong and everything might not be perfect but it will still be your perfect day. If you are not super into wedding planning, don't make it awful for yourself. I truly believe that you need to do what is right for you and Eric and even though sometimes it's hard to not listen to the advice of others...sometimes that is necessary in order to not go crazy. It's your day. It's about your marriage to the man you love. The details will fall into place. I think you have some good rules for yourself because you know your limits and that will help decrease the stress. I have an idea for you....when you get stressed about planning, ask your Kiddos to draw a picture of you and your husband on your wedding day. The pics will crack you up. I did this with my first graders and made a book that we displayed at the wedding. I wrote Mr. and Mrs. Toppel on the board and they labeled their picture....they were SO funny. It definitely made me feel happy.<br /><br />KTSneaker Teacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11629970985456274562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-66899864830015659572010-01-25T01:08:58.565-05:002010-01-25T01:08:58.565-05:00Oh no, sorry to hear that dear. I'm sure it...Oh no, sorry to hear that dear. I'm sure it's normal for any bride-to-be though. Wedding planning is STRESSFUL! I like yours and Eric's rules, I think they will work well for you :) Hope you're feeling better after writing this post! XOAmberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05185652640389232120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-81433146086882528252010-01-24T22:45:11.136-05:002010-01-24T22:45:11.136-05:00Oh hun, sorry to hear you had a meltdown. Knowing ...Oh hun, sorry to hear you had a meltdown. Knowing me, that sounds like something that would happen to me. Weddings can be so overwhelming and stressful! *hugs*teacherwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15791382386588836461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-4353719959400402522010-01-24T22:41:56.723-05:002010-01-24T22:41:56.723-05:00Oh Kelly, it seems like every bride has to go thro...Oh Kelly, it seems like every bride has to go through this at some point... it's just sort of inevitable unfortunately. At least you can recogzie when you are being a bit unreasonable about something and then you can apologize - I don't think that all brides can see when they are being overly difficult.<br /><br />Hang in there. Try not to stress... It's so tough, but in the end, it will all work out.Lisa from Lisa's Yarnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05335500882510597919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-43843852699005950842010-01-24T22:32:14.160-05:002010-01-24T22:32:14.160-05:00oooooooh :( sorry you had a meltdown. i hear wedd...oooooooh :( sorry you had a meltdown. i hear wedding planning does that to a girl. sounds like you have a plan to deal with the stress from now on though!lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15856414833932990934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-90849663498417126362010-01-24T21:58:07.546-05:002010-01-24T21:58:07.546-05:00Aww Kelly. :( I will plan your wedding for you. ...Aww Kelly. :( I will plan your wedding for you. I don't know why I'm so obsessed with wedding plans. I love it.<br /><br />Try not to stress. No matter what, the day is going to be so special for you and everything will work out.Melissahttp://www.crunchesforcupcakes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-82953214299434337952010-01-24T21:56:47.574-05:002010-01-24T21:56:47.574-05:00I am all too familiar with the wedding meltdown. ...I am all too familiar with the wedding meltdown. Both my fiance and I had one on Wed night. It was not good. But it passed and now we're fine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-34689007424771692392010-01-24T21:43:39.146-05:002010-01-24T21:43:39.146-05:00Oh no! I was hoping after reading your post about ...Oh no! I was hoping after reading your post about the wedding site all coming together so nicely that things were all good! I feel you on the "can't talk about stressful things on Sunday or after 8 p.m." Maybe I should make that a rule at our house too. Far too many fights happen about stupid stuff late at night. I hope tomorrow everything seems better!Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920244581918254401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-3509288577001727702010-01-24T21:32:30.857-05:002010-01-24T21:32:30.857-05:00Oh, man. I have a feeling this will be ME when I&#...Oh, man. I have a feeling this will be ME when I'm planning my wedding! I have a tendency to lash out at people and say things I totally do not mean when I'm stressed about something.<br /><br />I love, love, love the rules! Eric seems like a good man to be marrying and can handle all of 8pm Kelly and Sunday Kelly. ;)Stephanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01664500645286563334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-35772608563138509892010-01-24T21:23:22.066-05:002010-01-24T21:23:22.066-05:00Oh Kelly! :o( I think I saw this one coming on Twi...Oh Kelly! :o( I think I saw this one coming on Twitter this morning.<br /><br />Go to sleep and forget about all the wedding nonsense. And in the morning it will all seem better.<br /><br />As for me I think I've had one official meltdown and we hadn't chosen a venue. It was in Mexico - it BLAZING hot, our rental car wasn't working properly, and the resort person (Blue Tulum in case anyone wants to know) was HORRIBLE!!!!!!! She was pressuring us into signing a contract by giving us a $5 discount per person. I was insulted. Hot. Sweat. Annoyed with people's shifty ways. And so I cried. Pathetic, huh!?<br /><br />See - you're not alone! :o)A Toronto girl out Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12092298085031549866noreply@blogger.com