Thursday, July 8, 2010

The Phases of Life

Ah, two more days of the single life. What should I do?

Dance on tables?

Kiss some boys?

Kidding :)

Eric and I arrived at the Cape last night and continued the wedding mode that was happening at home. We finished up our water bottle labels, alphabetized the escort cards and ran about 300 errands. Is it just me or does getting married = errands?

So far I've been told or asked the following things 100 times or more...

"It won't matter if it rains, you'll still have fun." (yes but I'll have MORE fun if I can get married outside like I want to)

"Are you nervous?" (do you mean nervous to marry Eric? not at all... starting to get a little nervous about the attention involved in being a bride, nothing a little Bud Light won't help)

"Are you ready?" (yes, see below).

When I was in high school I took a business class senior year. The teacher was a really nice man but I can't really recall learning much about business, he just enjoyed talking about life with his students. One time we got in this discussion about being ready for the different phases of life. This one kid in my class said that he had found (at his wise age of 17) that you never feel that ready for big things until they are almost there and then suddenly you just become ready.

Since that time I've had a few big milestones- graduating high school, going to college, studying abroad on the other side of the world, graduating college, starting teaching...and now getting married. Though all of these things were a bit nerve wracking in the future, I felt ready for each of them as they came. Thinking about marriage 5 years ago was CRAZY to me, now it feels totally normal. In fact, I'm pretty sure come Sunday the only thing that will be different is my new last name and lack of anything insane to plan :) I've been told as soon as you get married people start asking when you are having kids. The answer to that is that I can only hope the phases of life philosophy applies to that too because right now I do NOT feel ready for that haha.

Anyway, in case you are curious my general plan for the weekend is as follows...

Tomorrow morning Caroline, Katie and I will head to the spa for manicures and pedicures. I am normally not much of a "spa" person but right now it feels nice to have a part of my body I don't need to worry about at all.

My rehearsal is tomorrow at 2:30, followed by an early rehearsal dinner. I'm excited because I love my rehearsal dinner restaurant and I'm excited to hear Katie's speech and eat delicious food. Hopefully Katie will not reveal too many of my secrets :) Post rehearsal dinner is a big "welcome party" BBQ since all of our guests are basically "out of town." We'll be arriving a bit late but it will be nice to see everyone.

Saturday morning is an early wake up call for hair and make up. I would love if I could get a quick blog post it while I'm getting ready but we'll see :) I know you guys don't expect anything but I'd like to remember what I was thinking that day haha. Ceremony starts at 5:30, followed by reception. The weather report right now is thunderstorms, so we'll see if we manage to avoid them or not. Basically all we need is for it to stay nice from 5-6...anything beyond that is simply a bonus. I just want to remind the powers that be that it rained for my bachelorette, just for the record.

I hope everyone has an amazing weekend. Tell me what you think about the phases of life, are you usually ready for what comes? Also tell me what you are up to this weekend. Too bad I can't Skype my wedding and then that's what you could be doing on Saturday night haha.


  1. So exciting, I hope you have an incredible weekend. Take some time with Eric, step back and take it all in!
    Also, my advice is to give your phone to your sister or mom or someone you trust. People call you with the STUPIDEST questions, and you don't need to deal with that!!!

  2. Hope the weather holds out and you have an amazing time!

  3. ENJOY the weekend and NOT having to plan a thing or answer any annoying questions about placecards and napkins once the morning hits (the best part)!!!

  4. Oh my gosh! Congrats and enjoy your weekend. This is such an amazing time in your life and I promise even with glitches, everything is going to be amazing! Enjoy!

  5. I am praying that you get to have your wedding outside! But of course, if it does rain, you have to MAKE SURE to just stay in the moment and not let that ruin your day. It simply can't ruin your day!

    I'm glad you feel ready for this, mentally, physically, and emotionally. If not now, when?! I mean you and Eric are so in love, and meant for each other, I just love it (and I don't even "know" you two!). I can't WAITTTT to see pictures.

    Have a BLAST tomorrow and Saturday. I will be thinking about you (in a none creepy way). Sending fabulous thoughts your way !!

  6. I agree - I think things seem daunting, but when they time comes to cross that hurdle, you will feel ready. That's been the case for me. Things seems so scary from a distance, but when you get up close, you realize that very little changes, or the changes are so gradual, you don't feel them.

    So excited for you! I got chills reading this actually - can't believe the big day is here!

  7. I am so excited for you! You will love every minute of the weekend - especially since you've been such a calm bride.

    Seize every moment - it goes soo soo fast!

    :) Already sooo excited to hear about the wedding!!!!

  8. It only says 30% chance of thunderstorms. And with thunderstorms, who knows if they'll actually happen where you are!

    CONGRATS! Can't wait to see pictures!

    I feel similar in that even two years ago, marriage sounded so daunting, but now, it seems like the next natural thing. Heck I could do it now, just without all the bells and whistles quite read.

  9. Sounds like you have a wonderful weekend ahead of you! Enjoy it!!!!



  10. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you have great weather from 5-6pm. :-) And seriously, if another person asks if I'm nervous or excited, I might lose it, so I know how you feel!

    Good luck and I can't wait to see pictures. Although I could come down and just crash the wedding... :-)

  11. I'll be crossing my fingers that the thunderstorms stay away. But I know you are going to have a beautiful weekend, regardless of the weather. I am so happy for you and can't wait to hear all about it! Make sure to take some quiet time with Eric and to really enjoy each other :)

  12. Kel I am sending good vibes your way. You really deserve it.

    Graduating high school, and college were AMAZING days of my life, but my god they were heartbreaking at the same time. I never wanted to leave either place. Yet I managed to embraced each new phase in my life.....

  13. Interesting topic on the phases of life... I keep wondering when we will be "ready" to have kids, but people tell me you never really are!

    Have a WONDERFUl day tomorrow!!!

  14. Ready for what comes? Never! It just comes and you are made ready. I'm pregnant and still not ready to be a mom! Though, I know that instinct will kick in.

    Wishing you a wonderful wedding. Those little things really don't matter. You'll love this day because you'll marry the man you were intended to marry and have all your supporters, friends and family there to party! :)

  15. I love this post and totally agree with you! Right now I do not feel READY to be married at all, but I am totally ready to "settle down" somewhere with Eric and PERMANENTLY live together and maybe even start looking into buying a house. But marriage? Nuh-uh! I'm sure in a few years I'll feel differently though.

    I'm so excited for you! Try to just live in the moment and enjoy every second of your big day OK? No stressing out! It's your wedding day and it's going to be amazing. I absolutely cannot wait for pictures and an update!!! XO

  16. Kelly I am so excited for the two of you and I can't wait to see the pictures! Next time you come out to Arizona we'll rent mountain bikes!

  17. Totally unrelated, especially since you are getting MARRIED tomorrow. But I'm going to my first ever Red Sox game tonight (in the Blue Jays stadium). It made me think of you :) Have a BLAST tomorrow!!!!!

  18. Enjoy every moment of the weekend and of y'all's BIG DAY! Congratulations!!!

  19. great post. best of luck tomorrow! it will be perfect! congrats!