In the social media world (which I wish was the real world because then we'd be hanging out) Becky has been RAVING about this book she just read: Carry On Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed. I'm not gonna lie… when she first mentioned it I thought it was a political book about living without guns and I was thinking, "really? how did someone write a whole book on this?" Though I'm sure someone could...
Once I found out it was actually about just living without all the barriers we all put up, I thought it sounded more interesting so I started reading the blog by the author. Yeah, it's kind of a mom blog. I'm not a mom. Oh well, I skimmed through it. Then I found this post: Quit Pointing Your Avocado at Me. It's about the mommy-wars, of which I am not in. But oh my god, it is oh so applicable to a don't wanna be but am competitive girl stuck in a world of seemingly crazy people trying to outdo each other at every single turn. She discusses how when people do things, like bring their child an avocado to a mall food court (instead of just buying them some freaking pizza or "chicken" nuggets), they aren't doing it AT YOU. When people run a marathon, they aren't doing it AT YOU. When people get a promotion at work, they aren't doing it AT YOU. Not to make everyone out to be selfish a-holes, but everyone is doing what they need to for themselves, and what I do or don't do has very little impact on them at all.
Is it just me or is that kind of freeing? When someone finishes their report cards at work before me, it actually has nothing to do with me, they just do it for themselves, as do I when I finish them. When someone manages to complete all their monthly goals and posts about it on their blog, they aren't trying to rub it in my face that I had a bad goals month- did I even make goals? If someone posts a photo of a party they hosted that looks like the entire thing is Pinterest worthy, this actually has nothing at all to do with me and the completely non-Pinterest worthy parties I throw and celebrate that I actually hosted an event at all.
We all have our wonderful strengths and our weaknesses, or things we just don't care much about. That's what is so great about us. 98% of the time, I have no problem remembering this, and I'm genuinely happy for the marathon runners and the Martha Stewart party and meal hosts. It's just those occasional times when you need the reminder, no one is pointing their avocado at me. No one. Well, except maybe Eric with his fancy flips into freezing cold Maine water.
What are the things you feel like sometimes people do "at you?" :)