tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post5199275221357051939..comments2023-10-13T06:34:36.595-04:00Comments on She Wears a Red Sox Cap...: Baby Fever or Baby Fears?Kellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03964218970797460632noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-27659897619996913292012-01-19T07:41:42.235-05:002012-01-19T07:41:42.235-05:00I haven't really had to think about kids since...I haven't really had to think about kids since I am not married, but I think I would fear many of the same things. I had a really demanding career and a full life - it's hard to imagine adding a child to that equation. But I know that I likely will (if I get married). One things that bums me out is that because of my age, I won't be able to really wait long to have children. I see myself getting married and trying to have kids right away... It is what it is! I had my fun in my 20s, so I don't feel like I am missing out on anything, I just get bummed that I won't have those years of just being a couple with my husband (most likely, who knows what the future truly holds).Lisa from Lisa's Yarnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05335500882510597919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-28432820313038040722012-01-17T12:29:24.458-05:002012-01-17T12:29:24.458-05:00Wow, this post could not have come at a better tim...Wow, this post could not have come at a better time. I feel like I am surrounded by baby-talk! One of my good friends is due in February (we just threw her a shower this weekend!) and I just found out yesterday that my boss AND her boss is pregnant (with twins!)I cannot imagine having children right now, but when the time comes, I have the same. exact. fears. I don't have any comforting thoughts...but just know you aren't alone!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02472214840216465822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-44426400009124389202012-01-17T10:08:51.136-05:002012-01-17T10:08:51.136-05:00Ok I was expecting so much worse. These fears (not...Ok I was expecting so much worse. These fears (not that I would really know) are totally normal. I've considered all of these, and I haven't even really THOUGHT about having kids any time in the near future. I like the firfirst comment, and I have to agree. Kids are one of those things that you just do and figure it out/worry about it later. You'll be fine, especially cause you have two awesome set of parents that are close by to help you out. And me!<br />As for their being no breaks from your kids like you have from your students, just think of the rewards you get from teaching, and now imagine those times 100000 with your own kids.Carolinehttp://sweetcarolineblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-68324161565896561022012-01-17T09:56:55.867-05:002012-01-17T09:56:55.867-05:00I am so with you! In fact, there are multiple time...I am so with you! In fact, there are multiple times where I've discussed with my husband how having children ruins relationships (kind of joking). All spontaneous, random date nights, and the freedom to go where ever whenever goes out the door. <br /><br />I am extremely terrified of pregnancy, also. <br /><br />My level of fear is a sign that I'm so not ready for kiddos!!Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06854266979976413979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-62622279666770741652012-01-17T07:01:18.390-05:002012-01-17T07:01:18.390-05:00For me, I think I felt ready when the fear of not ...For me, I think I felt ready when the fear of not having a baby (or having a lot of trouble having one) greatly outweighed the fears of having one. For Ronnie, he says he felt like that was something in his life that he always knew he wanted, but it shifted to feeling like it was something missing from our lives. We weren't ready before, so nothing felt "missing" from our lives, but eventually we just felt like we were ready to be parents. I don't know that you can pinpoint the moment it happens, but eventually you'll just know it's what you both want.TiffanyIPBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01396972322569272468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-84617539204255697142012-01-16T23:22:56.240-05:002012-01-16T23:22:56.240-05:00Yes, I have all those same fears and I have just a...Yes, I have all those same fears and I have just about 2.5 months to get over them, right? I think becoming a parent is the scariest thing you can ever do yet I always hear that it is also the most rewarding. I think that being a teacher (esp a teacher who teaches YOUNG kids) is very difficult because you already take care of so many kids that it just seems really impossible to care for your own on top of that. I definitely wonder what teaching will feel like once I am a mom. I think I will have more empathy for parents, yet I worry that I will be cranky with my own child after working. You are spot on with your concerns. I always felt NOT READY, but then at a certain point, we felt ready to try to get pregnant and then once I was pregnant I started to feel myself changing and becoming more open to all the changes and difficulties that I know I will face. It's hard to explain but even just being pregnant changes the way you think about things. Knowing that we made this little person is an incredible feeling and I just can't wait to meet her!Sneaker Teacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11629970985456274562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-64457413420876033072012-01-16T21:32:57.563-05:002012-01-16T21:32:57.563-05:00I should really edit my comments... Should have be...I should really edit my comments... Should have been all those *fears may not go away and read your #6* <br /><br />I was just so anxious to comment because this post hit home for me :DAmberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05185652640389232120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-58633201656036270862012-01-16T21:31:47.606-05:002012-01-16T21:31:47.606-05:00Oh yes. Yes yes yes. My biggest thing is that I...Oh yes. Yes yes yes. My biggest thing is that I'm still very selfish. Even when you have pets you still put your life before there's and that's not the case with kids (so I've heard). I like spending my money on me and free time on things I like to do. <br /><br />I remember when Caitlin at HTP did a post on planning parenthood right before announcing her pregnancy and someone left a comment saying "if you somehow found out it wouldn't be possible for you to get pregnant for another few years how would you feel" and she commented that she'd be devastated, I think that was a good indicator she was totally ready. I on the other hand would be like, few years? Try 5 or 6!! Ha! Also if someone told me right now that I could choose between having a baby in the next year or never having a baby I would be VERY tempted to choose never having a baby. All signs I'm not ready ;) But when you answer those kinds of questions differently than me I think it's a sign your ready and all those may not go away EVER but raising your child will make living with those fears totally worth it (or so I've heard).<br /><br />For example, one of my greatest fears in life is something happening to Eric (read your #5) but that doesn't mean I'm not going to marry him and plan to spend the rest of my life with him, right? Right! <br /><br />Great post by the way :)Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05185652640389232120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-41537239494348303882012-01-16T21:13:56.493-05:002012-01-16T21:13:56.493-05:00I am with you 150%.
Thank you for writing this ...I am with you 150%. <br /><br />Thank you for writing this - this was a great articulation of all of my fears...<br /><br />I know someday Matt and I will be ready to be parents - I'm just not sure when to recognize that day!<br /><br />Thank you again for posting this - glad I'm not the only one out there!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09091140806417514915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030496918044060645.post-35446513998423637222012-01-16T20:55:49.859-05:002012-01-16T20:55:49.859-05:00You just do it. And it works out. If you spend t...You just do it. And it works out. If you spend too much time worrying and not doing something, you'll never do it. It's one of those you just gotta leap, you never know what is going to happen until you do it.The Many Thoughts of a Readerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12261949837343560602noreply@blogger.com